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[quote=Anonymous]My 15 year old daughter recently confessed to me that she had hit a boy in her class then he tried to hold her against a wall and kiss her against her will. She said that she wasn't sure what was going on, but she was scared and reacted without thinking and stuck him in the face, and then he ran away.  She learned the next day that his nose was broken, although I understand he told his parents and the nurse that he fell down some stairs at school.  I did hear from another parent about the kid with the broken nose - so I don't have any reason to think my daughter is making up the story.  She was very nervous to tell me,  and then the details just kind of spilled out.

My immediate reaction isn't to be mad at her, but to tell her that I was glad that she felt empowered to defend herself.  However, we also talked about ensuring that her response to any future such incidents is perhaps a bit more measured.  An unwanted kiss from a friend might warrant a slap, but a closed fist to the nose can be saved for someone from whom she feels a dangerous physical threat.  I'm not inclined to contact the school or the other kid's parents to discuss, in part because she is afraid of getting into trouble for hurting him and in part because I figure it's her business and she seems to have handled it her own way.  However, she still has the boy in several of her classes and she says he still watches her uncomfortably all the time, which makes me a bit nervous.

I'll add that we're not in DC, so I feel free sharing these details.  However, I don't feel comfortable talking with friends here because I want to protect my daughter and I suppose also the boy's privacy.  Should I be doing more?  I'm not usually one to condone the use of violence, but I kind of feel like I don't need to address it as violence this time? [/quote]

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