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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh this is totally my life.  By nature, I'm uber-organized and see things through.  DH not so much, and 20 years later even worse.  By default and to get anything accomplished, I'm the main administrative person in the house.  I'll push back from time to time when I get fed up:  "Really?  The checkbook has been in the same place for 15 years -- you can find it and write the check you need!"  [b]But then I'll think of the things he takes care of without my asking and I don't have to worry about, thinks like appliance repairs, house maintenance, doing nearly all the lawn work, car maintenance[/b], etc. and I let it go.  [/quote]

+1.  When I read these "division of labor" threads, I always wonder if the DWs are fairly acknowledging the DH's contributions.  I do a lot of the administrative and calendar keeping.  I do most of the laundry and cooking.  However, in 20 years of marriage, I have never taken out any trash, done any significant yard work, taken a dog to the vet or taken the boys for a haircut.  I have also never taken in a car for maintenance.

Here is the thing for me.  Division of labor does not mean we do the same things equally or even that we do the same things at all. There are a lot of chores that are needed to make a house function.  I am fine dong the things I do because I know he is going to the things on his roster.  Together, we make our house run.    [/quote]

+a million.[/quote]

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