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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've never been a hardcore "Rules" follower but in general have let men pursue me. It feels more exciting that way and besides, I would have the uncertainty of whether he really liked me or was being just being polite.

[b]Anyway, in my current relationship I kind of threw all of that out of the window and dove in head first - hot, heavy, and unsustainable. We spent most nights together, called/texted all the time, etc. Last week he spearheaded, but I agreed with, deciding to slow down. There wasn't an indication he was no longer interested, simply that he needs more time to himself. (As do I.) [/b]

I feel like I gave too much of myself too quickly. Is it too late to reset the dynamic? We have a great time, great sex, lots of fun and good conversation. We seem to be compatible. I'd like to have a stable relationship with this guy.

I'm thinking I should be more of a "Rules" girl with him. Never initiate communication, be slow to respond, make him plan dates in advance (instead of, see you after work).

Would love to hear men's perspectives here. [/quote]

You messed up.  Men often want to take things too fast and it's up to you to put on the brakes.  Now you're overly invested in this and you barely know each other.  Seriously slow down.  Don't play hard to get, but instead GET A LIFE.  If you're living a great life you're not going to be so quick to start sleeping at some dude's place every night and call/text all the time.  It's not that men want someone to play hard to get but they want someone who has something goin in.  You basically dropped your entire life for this guy.  [/quote]

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