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[quote=Anonymous]Hello Everyone,

Here I come! Sorry for the veeeeeeeery long message.

I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years now. We're both 28 and sister in law is 25.

She can be a very nice girl, fun and cool. When I first met her, that's what I thought. I only saw her a few times so I actually liked her. Then I started seeing more often and I realized how clingy to her brother she can be. I first thought that they were really close because they don't have a father. And she acts like a 10 years old, so her being clingy doesn't seem weird.

My boyfriend found a job far from his homeplace and we decided to live together. That's when everything really started. She was not clingy, she was more than clingy.

The day before we moved she started saying things like "there's a restaurant where I work near your place, I can just come and live with you". She got angry at her uncle when he invited my boyfriend and me to eat at his place and not her. She said "if you invite HIM it means you invite ME too" and her uncle was shocked. 
After that, whenever we came to visit them, she did things like holding his hand on the table at dinner and caressing his hand. Lying fully on him on his bed with her face in his neck. She wants to be the one to take him in her arms when he's cold. Things that made me feel uneasy. More uneasy than jealous, like I was too much in the room and I should leave them alone.

Friends told me that she just needed to find a boyfriend. The thing is, she DOES have a boyfriend. But I think she acts with her boyfriend the way I do with my brother. And acts with her brother the way I do with my boyfriend. Like she cares more about wearing clothes that her brother will like and never asks this to her boyfriend (real situation. Her boyfriend was next to her but she asked her brother. And she got angry when her brother told her to ask her boyfriend instead).

She once even told me that her boyfriend was angry because she puts her brother before her boyfriend. I said: "well, for me, your brother comes before mine because I consider him as the man of my life" (obviously meaning that I want to marry him and have babies with him....) and she said: "right?? me too!! My brother comes first then my boyfriend". I almost asked her "oh you too? you want to marry and have children with him too???"

I repeated that conversation to my boyfriend and he got a little bit scared.
I don't know what actually happened after that, but she stopped being that way. So I thought that she'll just be the clingy sister I knew first and that we could start being nice sisters in law!!!

Buuuuuuut no.... Because now.... she's not the annoying sister who looks like his second girlfriend anymore. She's just the annoying sister.
Really annoying. I said she acted like a 10 years old? Well, it's more like A 10 years old spoiled child who thinks she's a princess and thinks that everyone should obey. And worst of all.... the whole family looks like they signed a contract that says they should never upset her.

Here are 3 examples of things she does that resume her attitude everytime I see her. 
_ She's cooking something, fridge is behind her. Her mother is between her and the fridge. She doesn't turn around. Doesn't say a word. She just tends her arm far behind her with the butter in her hand and wait. So her mother (who almost got the butter in the face) takes it and put it back in the fridge. Mother gets angry and sister says "what??? why are you suddenly angry???"
mother just stops talking so sister thinks that she was doing things right.
_ We go to the beach. Me my boyfriend, his sister and her boyfriend. She forgot to bring some underwears. Notices that me and my boyfriend brought ours. She gets angry because we didn't tell her to bring hers. So if she didn't bring hers, it's obviously our fault. I told her that we were not supposed to be her brains and that she was 25 already... she acted like I didn't say anything.
_She's at our place. We're all playing poker. She's shuffling the cards but it's been 10 minutes already. Because she's watching the tv at the same time. So my boyfriend turns the TV off. She gets angry and says in a very very bossy tone: "turn the tv on. Turn.The.TV.ON! TURN THE TV ON!!!!" She threatened to stop playing. We didn't turn it on but instead we had to put music on our phone.
I told my boyfriend later (then to her when we saw her the next time) that she was not at her place and she had no right to talk to us like that. That I'm sorry to say that but I think she's a spoiled child, rude and disrepectful most of the time. And next time she talks to us like that at our place, she gets out. Immediately. 
Her mother got a bit scared but sister in law just laughed like "I was just being a child". I don't think she really expects me to do that, but I know my boyfriend is worried about inviting her over again because he knows that she may do that again and that she will end up sleeping at the hotel whatever he says.

And that attitude... that's how she acts all the time. It's not even about her being clingy, it's her being annoying. I can say so much more. Like how she sent a message when we were on a holiday to tell us what to visit. And since we were busy we didn't see the message so she called 3 times!!!! And when my boyfriend got worried (because who would call 3 times the same day if it was not important????) she said it was just to tell us to visit that thing. 
How she tried to call her brother but he didn't answer. she called me right after and I had to tell her he was in the toilets. And she wanted me to give him my phone. And since I didn't want to, she wanted me to put the phone on loudspeaker. And we refused. So she called him later (30 minutes later only) and what did she say??? just that she was in a great place for the week end.

I swear I could give so much more examples...

Her cousin's boyfriend talked about her and said he was annoyed too. Sister in law and her cousin often get into arguments. Most of the time I agree with the cousin, but listening to sister in law, she's never at fault. The boyfriend learned from the cousin that no one dared to say anything to her because then her mother would be angry and would stop talking to them. I didn't sign up for this so I tell her no everytime I feel like I can say it. But the cousin's boyfriend is scared that I may end up being hated by both mother and sister in law.

Boyfriend wants to see his family often. And wants me to get along with his sister. I just want to crash her head against a wall. What should I do?

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