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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ignore the first poster.  They're an ass.  Sorry to hear you're going through this OP.  My mother does the same and always has.  She's currently going on 3 years of minimal contact with us because she feels we rejected her by moving for a job opportunity and better schools for our kids (we were in a DC suburb with terrible schools and couldn't afford private).  She used to go weeks at home without speaking to me as a child.  I understand both the desire to re-establish contact and the anger that comes from being unfairly "punished" in this way.  You did nothing wrong and you're setting a good example of boundaries for your daughter.  People are allowed to have their privacy and it's not a rejection of your mother that your daughter needs some space.  Some people will take everything personally no matter what so there's no point in trying to appease them because it will always be something.  I know that's easier said than done and it doesn't make it any less painful.  I actually came on to post a question about whether I should reach out to my mom *again* when I saw your post.  I've had many years of therapy and while I understand it all intellectually and in my more rationale moments can look at it from a distance, it still hurts a lot to have a mom who is so spiteful.  Moms are supposed to protect us, not hurt us and it sounds like that's exactly what you're doing for your daughter.  Kudos for breaking that cycle and hugs to you![/quote]

My MIL raised two children in a house where she did this.

Did not work out too well for her once there were DILs who didn't put up with this crap.  Caused a lot of trouble in our marriages until her boys realized that there were healthier ways to be and stopped putting up with it.

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