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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Divorce. It doesn’t get better. You’ll never have a partner, not now and certainly not if something goes really bad like you get cancer, and knowing that you are completely alone and can’t count on him to keep things together in the event you can’t will eat you alive. I say this as someone who has been married 10 years to someone with ADHD. Call it ADHD or garden variety Entitled White Herero Male Syndrome, but the result is the same- you have a spouse that does not care enough about you to get past their own discomfort to learn how to deal with their shit.

FWIW, I find that if you treat the ADHD spouse like the teenager they are, you get better results. No one “doesn’t see” the garbage they are tripping over, they just don’t want to clean it up. You wouldn’t let a normal 15 year old get away with that, would you?[/quote]

ADHD spouse here. Your message is a narrow minded one, perhaps justified given the experience you may be having.  I'm sorry you've had to go through whatever it is that has made you so bitter. Most ADD'rs are highly sensitive, high energy, compassionate, have a sense of right & wrong and if there are no co-morbid learning disabilities, they are pretty darn smart. They are also disorganized, impulsive, forgetful, and many other awesome and irritating things, just like everyone else. What I can say for me as an ADD'r is my husband is lucky to have me (I'm just as if not more fortunate). I don't know one woman who would be more loyal and accepting of his deafness and other health issues. Perhaps your spouse is narcissistic or depressed. [/quote]

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