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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't understand why parents want/need to be so involved in applications once the child is old enough to go to college.
My parents did not help me with my applications. In fact my experience has been that if my child isn't engaged enough to handle things on their own (or at least mostly on their own) then they are not engaged enough to succeed anyway. first, I don't think it is helpful to the kids to carry them through life and second, it is exhausting.[/quote]

A PP here.  My DH "ran" the process but in our house that means that he helped them organize themselves.  The kids drove things and made the decisions but he would do things like help them set up a "pro and con" spreadsheet.  Helped them gather information.  Listen to their thoughts and give advice when asked.  You know...things that parents of 16-17 YOs  should be doing.

I understand what you are saying and my parents did nothing when I applied.  I also resented that because I felt that I was out there on my own making decisions about things that I had limited knowledge of.  So if our experience in navigating the college application process can help our kids, why wouldn't we at least give them support?  [/quote]

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