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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Trailing spouse here. It's hard...but try to enjoy any of the perks (traveling w/ DH? his flexible schedule?) and once he gets tenure, maybe he can get a job somewhere else? [/quote]

OP here. The time off (one month in the winter, three months in the summer) is nice. He does research overseas every summer and I'm able to join him at least some of the time. Once he's tenured he will try to get a job in a city. Thanks for the encouragement! [/quote]

Uh...how will he get a job in a city once he's tenured at the University of Wherever? You will stay in Appalacia for the rest of your life if he gets tenure.
-faculty brat[/quote]

Ya, I was going to say the same thing, but maybe a little more gently.  It's really hard to move post-tenure. I have tenure at a major flagship research university, and I haven't seen a job I wanted to apply for in years (meaning, no assoc prof jobs in places I'd want to live, even fewer full prof or open rank jobs).  On the flip side, we love love love to hire "advanced assistant professors"--people who we consider "underemployed," who have put in 3-4 years at a "lower tier" institution, have built up a research profile and some teaching experience, and are looking to move.  (All the quotation marks in the previous sentence are because I loathe all the elitism inherent in that sentiment, but it's a faithful reflection of how my colleagues think and talk.)

Anyway, to the extent that you get involved in discussions about your husband's career, you might want to ask him about the possibilities of applying aggressively in year 4 or 5 on the tenure clock.  If that doesn't work, and you both really want out, the best option is probably for him to go the administration route.  Most of the senior jobs I see advertised are for department chairs.[/quote]

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