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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You need to tell him specifically what you want him to do. 
A lot of men are like this because they DON’T KNOW how to manage multiple responsibilities - either they don’t recognize the existence of the responsibilities or they feel it’s not their role to deal with it all. Fear of failure maybe?
 I don’t understand how it is possible but a lot of men are just like your husband. They need lessons or training or something. Take baby steps and delegate some of the load to him. Make a list of everything you do in a day, a week, a month to run the household. Ask him to check off some items for himself and then LET HIM DO IT. 
No micromanaging. No nagging and no whining. The business of marriage -  Partners share the work. Period. [/quote]

:roll: This is called "mental workload," and it also imposes a burden on the person (usually the wife) responsible for it. I have no interest in being my husband's executive assistant and figuring out what he needs to pay attention to. The kids and house are just as much his as they are mine. Why is it my job to identify everything that needs to be done and allocate certain discrete tasks to him? My advice is to leave town more often and make him deal with everything by himself. Sink or swim. Assuming he has some modicum of basic competence, 
he'll figure it out.[/quote]

Amen. Not my job to tell him everything that needs to be done. Somehow there is an expectation that we will both provide clear instructions on exactly what we expect of them yet never mention what we expect because NAGGING. [/quote]
Wrong attitude. He is your partner not your employee. Figure it out together .[/quote]

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