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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You need to tell him specifically what you want him to do. 
A lot of men are like this because they DON’T KNOW how to manage multiple responsibilities - either they don’t recognize the existence of the responsibilities or they feel it’s not their role to deal with it all. Fear of failure maybe?
 I don’t understand how it is possible but a lot of men are just like your husband. They need lessons or training or something. Take baby steps and delegate some of the load to him. Make a list of everything you do in a day, a week, a month to run the household. Ask him to check off some items for himself and then LET HIM DO IT. 
No micromanaging. No nagging and no whining. The business of marriage -  Partners share the work. Period. [/quote]

:roll: This is called "mental workload," and it also imposes a burden on the person (usually the wife) responsible for it. I have no interest in being my husband's executive assistant and figuring out what he needs to pay attention to. The kids and house are just as much his as they are mine. Why is it my job to identify everything that needs to be done and allocate certain discrete tasks to him? My advice is to leave town more often and make him deal with everything by himself. Sink or swim. Assuming he has some modicum of basic competence, he'll figure it out.[/quote]

Well, she could start by delegating chores equally among the children. Don't just let the son rake leaves and that's it. Make him vacuum and wash dishes. Show your daughter how to change motor oil. I honestly think a lot of men get away with less 'equal' household work because they aren't taught from a young age that should be [i]expected[/i] to be excited/interested in/responsible for child care, pet care, and household duties.

Keep picking up after them and your son will turn into your husband and your DILs will be voicing the same complaints. [/quote]

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