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[quote=Anonymous]I'm an introvert and my mother is an extrovert although no one understood or had language for either as I was growing up. She just thought I was anti social because I was satisfied with three close friends and one social event a week. 
I LOVE to talk so it's not necessarily a symptom of introversion to not process verbally. The difference is, I have a limit and I need to recharge.  If I've had extended (45 mins or more) conversations with two friends on the phone/in person in one day, my reserves are down and I need to recharge before my kids come home and start with their activity. 
Another thing is, I'm easily bored by inane conversation and large parties where I don't know anyone. This isn't scary or socal anxiety. I just do not like chit chat and I don't like large social gatherings. I can stay up for hours catching up with an old friend or two, playing cards, going for walks, etc. 
the most important thing for me to learn was to pay attention to my need to recharge and to give myself permission to do it. My DH doesn't give me grief, he encourages it and he has other people he can spend time with/verbally process if I'm exhausted one day after social interactions and our children's needs. He understands when I'm tapped out after 2 hours at a party and I leave, he is welcome to stay. 
If he wants or needs to talk to me and I'm needing an introvert nap, he tells me he needs to talk and I muddle through it. If he just wants to tell me about his new Moleskine planner, I say, let me take a bath first and then we can look at your new planner. [/quote]

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