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[quote=Anonymous]1) When did you realize that you were an introvert? How does being an introvert affect your relationships? [b]I've always known. Even as a child I preferred reading alone to group activities. If I was with a group of cousins, I had an hour at most of playtime in me before I needed to 're-charge'. I've learned how to speak up for myself and the space I need - with friends and family. Actually adulthood has been better for that. I can tell friends, 'hey, I'm busy tonight but how about wine night on Friday' and its cool. We're not forced into social situations we don't want to be in.
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2) For those introverts that are married to extroverts, how have you found a good way to work through arguments? Do you ask for time to process before engaging in conversation? Do your spouses tire you out with conversation? [b]N/A[/b]

3) If you were a son or daughter of extroverted parents, what is the best way your parents connected with you? When did you feel understood the most? When did you feel loved the most? [b]Ughh, it was the worst. BOTH of my parents are extroverts. They couldn't understand my desire to stay at home in our 'nuclear' family instead of constantly traveling to see extended relatives or friends. I hated their parties and people invading my space - i.e. anywhere in my house. Eventually my parents learned to leave me to my own devices although it was always a push and pull because they constantly wanted me 'present'. If they didn't see me, as an extrovert it was almost like they felt I didn't care about them. Like our bonding had to be re-cemented with every interaction. As an introvert that sense of bonding and family was always there - too me I couldn't get why they needed it demonstrated so much.

I only felt I was understood when I finally decided enough was enough and had a three-hour extended conversation with them in my 20s. I told them flat out that I loved them and cared for them and that 'yada yada yada' but as a closed-off person I didn't need to demonstrate it every day and every hour. I think its tougher for an extrovert actually because it feels like the extroverts in my life need me more than I need them to be honest. If I turn down an invitation I immediately get the feeling that they personally feel rejected - whether its a family member or a friend. Anyway, that's that.[/b][/quote]

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