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[quote=Anonymous]I'm a SAHM with a marriage that has slowly been circling the drain, so my #1 priority the last few weeks has been to get a job, which I have finally done. It's not the best job in the world- I'll make just enough to cover daycare and gas to/from work, but it's doing something I love and there is opportunity for advancement, and it's about the best I can do right now. If I accept, I'll start in November.

DH knew I was applying and resisted, but I guess thought I wouldn't actually get an offer. He's not happy. He has a "big" job which he claims requires him to be on-call 24/7. My new job is early mornings- before daycare is open- the occasional evening, and about half of weekends. DH has stated that because of his job, he can not do daycare drop-offs even though he doesn't go in until 8, sick days, or watch our child on evenings/weekends because he may get called in. He never actually has been called in, but supposedly the potential exists. I don't know how much is true, but I do know many other people in his position at work somehow manage to have families, so I suspect most of this pressure he has brought on himself. He is pretty upset over this, so much that he skipped dinner (which I have never seen him do). He also stated that he never would have taken this job had he known I was going to go back to work. He has graciously (sarcasm) offered me a divorce as long as I sign over all custody to him, and barring that, he wants to live separate lives where I do my thing and he does his. Yes, he has a penchant for being dramatic, hence why we are headed towards divorce anyway.

Am I unreasonable in expecting him to pick up some kid duties? How do other people manage when one spouse has a job that is "more important"? [/quote]

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