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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents alway host Thanksgiving and Christmas but we are only there every other year as we rotate with my IL's. My DH and I both have a couple of siblings who do the same thing. We do try to be all together every other Christmas but it gets complicated. When none of us can make it to my parents on Thanksgiving I know they are disappointed but they have plenty of friends and they join them. One of us is always with them on Christmas.[/quote]

This is us too.  Both my parents (divorced) will generally host whoever is around between me and my two siblings, and each of their 2 step-kids.  It's a LOT of rotating schedules of siblings, step siblings, married-in family/in laws, etc.  What helps is they don't get too riled up about things.  I don't think I've seen my Dad on Thanksgiving in several years.  It's ok, I see him other times because we live close to each other.  My MIL acts like us spending a holiday entirely with my family is an act of aggression.  It's irritating, but I try not to let her temper tantrums sway the fairness of how we rotate things around between families, [b]because we have a good system going and we get to see everyone at some point.[/b][/quote]

For me, it's about this.  We see DH's family for a ton of holidays and birthdays and family parties.  Carving out one holiday on our own terms seems more than fair.[/quote]

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