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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I host every other year. So every other year I travel to my inlaws and then every other year I host. When I host, no one from inlaws family shows up. My parents come though and enjoy not being alone on the holiday. When I go to my inlaws, they spend the holiday by themselves as I'm an only child. [/quote]

PP above and it would be the same here.  My family would have nowhere to go.  Luckily DH could give two shits if we go to his side, so it works out perfectly.[/quote]

Oh wow. So you never go to his family's for Thanksgiving? That doesn't seem that fair. My parents spend half of their holidays alone, which is pretty sad but I can't never see my inlaws on holidays. This year they're alone on Christmas but not Thanksgiving.

When I host both parents attend my celebration, but when inlaws host, they don't invite my parents. It's a bone of contention with my parents that inlaws attend "their" Christmases, but don't invite them when it's not their year.[/quote]

NP but we rotated before we had kids.  Now, with kids Christmas and Thanksgiving are at our house and everyone who wants to come is invited.  Neither DH and I could handle the guilt tripping from both sides.  Once we did that, it became clear that it wasn't about having the family all together, it was about having them all at IL's house (which isn't even a childhood home or anything -- not even in the same state).  Plus, now we don't have to deal with SIL during the holidays any more.  She always had some sort of blowup that ruined the family peace for Christmas.  EVERY SINGLE YEAR.

DH says every year how much he LOVES having a nice peaceful, festive holiday at home!  Apparently SIL ruined all their holidays when he was young, too.[/quote]

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