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[quote=Anonymous]A few months ago a friend from college wanted to reconnect. She and I were close in college and afterward but she always had a penchant for drama and would routinely drop in and out of my life if she felt like I had "wronged" her. For example we went on vacation (15 years ago) and she stopped talking to me for the last few days of our vacation because some guy at the resort was hitting on me and she was interested in him. I was not returning his advances. But she didn't speak to me for about 2-3 years after.

Anyway we are now in our early 40s. I am married and have 2 children - including a one year old. She is single, no kids, never been married. She wanted to come down for a weekend and I said sure but I'm still nursing and baby is still getting up a lot at night  so can't do anything crazy. She said oh that's ok - I just want to come see you. Fine -  books her tickets to fly down.

For the last 6 weeks she has been complaining on Facebook that she is so deathly sick. She has had strep twice and sinus infections etc etc. She just recently posted how she needs to start antibiotics but didn't want to. I texted her to say hey we can reschedule for another weekend when you are feeling better. She says she's too cheap to reschedule so she'll just suck it up for 24 hours and she'll come. I say ok, just rest up.  And also, my 1 year old is on meds that suppress her immune system so if friend thinks she has a fever or is contagious then we should definitely reschedule. She write and says "I don't know what you mean by that". I clarify that for the baby to get sick on top of everything else would be a big pain.

The next morning at 6:30 she texts me "flights cancelled". I said "I'm sorry to hear that. Let's figure out another weekend". And I haven't heard back from her in over 24 hours.

Was I wrong? Should I have not said anything? Am I crazy in thinking that a true friend would actually care about your kid and at least ask "oh what meds is she on? Is she ok?"

I'm kind of baffled at her response but I guess I shouldn't be surprised. Just feel like she's being extremely selfish.

Thoughts?[/quote]

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