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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My brother dated his ex for 5 years. They broke up and then she found out she was pregnant, so they got back together and eventually broke up again for good when the baby was 9 months old. I really like his ex but they are just not right for each other. Their little girl is now 3 and lives with my brother during the week and sees her mom every other weekend. The mom works in sales and is often on the road. She was the one who really wanted to keep the baby, but I can't say she has been the best mother at times since she has been unwilling to change her life to best incorporate a child, but that's a different story. My brother really stepped up and is a truly amazing dad doing 90% of the work. And their daughter is a really great little girl.

So here is where things get awkward. For the past year and a half my brother has been dating someone new - she is super sweet and great with my niece, but she has really jumped in to assume the mom role in a bit of an overbearing way, and she totally clashes with his ex. New GF moved in with my brother and niece after about 8 months of them dating and seems a bit obsessed with the idea of having a child. She is also only 27 (my brother is 36, his ex is 35) and all of the sudden her life revolves around the kid. The biggest issue is that she really pushes the role of being mom in front of the real mom and it just creates a lot of animosity.

So now I have her mom complaining to me about how the GF is trying to take over her role as mom and win over her daughter. She has tried talking to my brother but I don't think he has addressed anything with his GF. I really don't want to be involved but I am completely caught in the middle and I really do see both sides.

What do I do here?[/quote]

I think alot of this is your projection OP.
You don't like your brother's new girlfriend because she's younger.
Is she kumping in  mom's face  talking about how she's a bad mom?
My guess is it's obvious your niece is close to the GF and of course she is she spends the majrity of the time with her. Should gf just ignore her when mom decides to come visit?

I also wager ex doesn't care that much about the little girl she's just jealous your brother has moved on and is seemingly happy and now she wants to create drama and will happily use the kid as a pawn to do that.[/quote]

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