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[quote=Anonymous]Big hugs, OP.   I know it's hard.  And you are NOT ALONE.  I've been through that often, although not consistently.   I will say that life has gotten much better since my son went on Concerta.   We don't fight.   He is much more compliant.  So I don't know if medication is an option that young or not, but please consider it if he does in fact get a diagnosis.

I also asked the therapist for some parenting techniques because I was yelling too often.  I don't want to yell at all.  Let me find the resources and I'll try to post them here.

One thing she told me was to keep in mind that it's like a disability.  That's a strong word, but I think she was trying to make me remind myself that they will need multiple reminders, and it's not because they are disrespecting you or don't care.   They just inherently need multiple reminders.  I need to tell my kid about 5 times in the morning to get dressed.   He's almost 11.   I just make sure I ask nicely and don't lose my patience, and he eventually gets dressed.

There are other tricks and supports that can help.   I bought a huge clock timer that counts down, and set it on the bathroom sink so that he knows when he has to finish up his shower, for example.  He didn't like it at first, but it turned his 40 minute showers into 15 minute showers, which was the goal.   And now he doesn't fuss.

With my kid, positive feedback, rewards, and tons of praise really help.  I catch him being good.   The simplest things, and I mean the simplest things, get praised.   "Way to put on your shoes without my asking!"   "You are getting so grown up and mature!   Look how you remembered your homework for the weekend!"

And find a support network.  If you are married or partnered, split up kid time between you.  You need a break to care for yourself, too.

Let me see if I've got the links the therapist gave me.

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