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[quote=Anonymous]I have four. The two older kids were VERY relieved when we split up.  The two younger kids were REALLY young (one was still in diapers) and rolled with it really well.  My ex and I probably didn't speak at all for two months immediately after I moved out.  We really just needed space from each other.  We did what you're not supposed to do and let the older kids relay messages to us.  "Mom said to ask you to bring milk, bread and eggs when you drop us off."  "Dad said to tell you he is picking us up at 1pm instead of 3pm so we can go to a family party."  We both said okay to anything during that time.  I think the older kids were like ... 10 and 13?  9 and 12?

When I started dating someone we didn't tell our respective kids for over six months.  Probably closer to a year.  He and I had been friends for over a decade so the kids knew him already.  No joke, when we told the older kids one of them said "I just don't ever want to accidentally see him in his underwear or anything gross." And I promised that wouldn't happen, and it hasn't.  The younger kids were like "does this mean more presents?" and I said "No, but it means more love" and they were fine and off playing two minutes later.

My ex and DH get along nicely.  If the kids invite their father to stay for dinner, DH is quick to set an extra place at the table and get him a drink.  They shake hands. When DH's favorite aunt was killed, my ex hugged him and sent food to DH's mom (her sister).  [/quote]

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