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[quote=Anonymous]I don't know where to begin. My grandmother passed away and we were close, but toward the end of her life she constantly criticized me. I graduated during the recession and couldn't find a job in my field and struggled financially. She would always tell me I needed a college education and she knew money was tight for me, but would say, "Well can't you take out loans?" My grandpa took care of her and she lived like a queen all of her adult life. THey had a big house that was paid off, drove expensive cars, she didn't work and they also took expensive vacations and he would fly her there in his own plane that he flew himself. Her hobby was shopping. I didn't realize until after she died that she was a hoarder of designer clothes, shoes, and handbags. I found tons of stuff with the pricetags still on them even from the present to 20 years ago. I'm talking hundreds of ferragamo shoes, Gucci & Bottega handbags, tons of expensive designer clothing, you get the pic.

My dad was an only child and has been a lousy dad for all of my life. His second wife is a nightmare and has made our lives hell. My whole family is very in denial. They brush important issues under the rug. My dad was very spoiled growing up and always placed on a pedestal by his parents. He could do no wrong in their eyes (he was arrested for drinking in college, totaled their new car, etc but this was never talked about and they still acted like he was perfect). He would dump me at my grandparents house on the every other weekend when I would go to his house growing up. His wife clearly didn't want me there.

Well, it turns out grandma was a multi millionaire. She would criticize me for not having a high paying job or being able to make ends meet when she never had to work or worry about money at all. I paid my way through college, yet her son had his entire way paid through college by his parents. I found hoards of designer handbags with cash still stuffed in the purses from 20+ years ago. My dad inherited everything. I loved my grandma, but as I cleaned through her hoarded (and huge) home, feelings of resentment and anger started to creep in and I can't let go of those feelings. 
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