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[quote=Anonymous]While on a walk with one of my kids, I ran into two former friends this week who completely ignored me, but spoke to my son. It was such a strange, unsettling experience, having these two women treat me like a non-entity, even as they chatted up my child.

Unfortunately, I see these women frequently because our kids are close friends and go to the same school. I don't want to be treated like a non-entity each time I see them. For one, it's a really creepy feeling. Also, I think it creates a poor model of behavior for all of our kids.

What to do? How do I ask these women to stop mean-girling me? To be clear, I do not want to be friends with them again. I just want them to treat me with the same level of basic decency that one would extend to any other person, i.e., acknowledging my existence.

For background, I don't want to restart a friendship with these women because I just can't forgive their callousness when one my kids was hospitalized after undergoing a horrible, traumatic accident. After the accident, neither of these women reached out at all -- no phone call, no text, no email -- to check on my child's well-being, even though our kids are very close friends. All of my child's other closest friends and their parents reached out at least in some small way. But neither of these women did anything at all, and I just can't be OK with that.

I'm not sure why they dislike me so much. It might be because I stopped hanging out with them in favor of some closer friends, but their behavior seems a bit extreme for that to be the reason. I'm in my 40s and I'm unused to dealing with this kind of awkward social stuff. I could ask them why they won't acknowledge me, but I don't want to open up this large discussion with them to repair the friendship.

Do you have any ideas about how to make our meetings civil without trying to restart the friendship? FWIW...I try to make eye contact and start talking with these women a bit. But they cut off my efforts by letting their glance gloss over me as if I wasn't there. Spooky. [/quote]

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