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[quote=Anonymous]I don't think it's crazy at all.  You can talk about whatever you want, and you can get married as soon as you want.  It's a free country and there are cultures around the world where people do not prolong courtship and you know what?  The marriages in those cultures are not necessarily worse than ours.

HOWEVER, I would make sure that I had seen and reviewed the following:

Are your financial strategies compatible?  Is he generous with money, stingy, etc?
You would need to get to know his family, and I would have to meet most family members in the area as well as getting to know his immediate family.  I would want to know about anything dark in the family's past (diseases, abuse, depression, suicides, etc.).
You would have to talk about kids and child-rearing.
You would have to see how he keeps his home.  Is he neat?  Messy?  Is he handy?  Does he like learning how to fix things in his home?
I would want to see how he handles a stressful situation at work.  Does he bring his work home with him?  Does he get snippy with you after a bad day at work?
Do you have any activities you like to do together?
I would do at least one trip or vacation together.  How someone behaves on vacation says a lot about them.
Are your views on religion compatible?

That's a minimal list and he could still turn out to be crappy.  YMMV.  My cousin married a man at 36 who told her everything she wanted to hear and he turned out to be a monster and they're divorced now.  So it doesn't matter that you're old.  I got married at 23 and am still happily married 10 years later.
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