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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You think you're going to go there and because you produce a child, everything will be fine, and they will all tell you how perfect everything is?

Maybe you'll have a unique experience, but as someone who knows and can relate to estrangement, it doesn't typically work like that. It's awkward and incomfortable, full of hurt and the love is gone.

I suggest you talking to a therapist to see why you feel you need this acceptance and approval for your daughter (who doesn't even know they exist.) It's hard, it truly is, but you are setting yourself up for disappointment and a world of hurt.

That said, from experience, if you think you will go through this, please don't go in expecting them to welcome you and your child with open arms. There is a good chance you will be met with exactly the opposite, and even worse treatment of your child.

Hugs. [/quote]

Op here. I know you are right. I know what I envision is a fantasy, and what you describe (the awkwardness, that the love is gone) would be the reality (and probably the best case scenario-the worst being a situation where my mom gets violent and/or police get involved somehow).

I don't want this for DD, I selfishly want it for me. I want the validation and the chance to gush. And I know my fantasy probably sounds almost delusional on my part. Logically I know it's not how it would be but the fantasy I've built up in my head feels so possible for some reason.[/quote]
It's not. Your thoughts aren't healthy. You need to talk to someone.

You keep mentioning this violence, yet you still want to go. Because you fantasize that your beautiful child will change their minds. She won't, unfortunately. You need to gush? Fish over her yourself. Someone who LOVES her. Hold her tight, squeeze her, cuddle her, tell her she is gorgeous. You are not going to get that from your family.

And risking violence? Really? Time to wake up, sweetie.[/quote]

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