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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you're this wound up I think you need a new therapist. [/quote]

Maybe, but maybe she has a good therapist who stirs up all of OPs realities and this is what swirls for the week inbetween sessions as OP processes and accepts.

OP you are tremendously strong and brave to leave what was an abusive situation. I wish I could've had your courage and resolve when my kids and I were that young. Instead I stayed for ten more years of hell.

This is normal in your circumstances and good for you for examining all these beliefs. For me, my parents only advice was marry someone who can provide for you. So I did. Things were great financially. Believing I could take care of myself went against everything I knew.

Take good self care. Read self help books. I listen to praying by Kesha over and over. Normally I don't like her music much but I love this song.  She was sexually assaulted by her music producer but still contracted to work with him for years more. The courts threw out her case. The song is her fighting back. It is my story too and hearing her bravery and strength helps me.

So good self care - meditate, exercise, sleep, do yoga, take vitamins, eat good most of the time, take baths, treat yourself and find some mantras to tape to your bathroom mirror to affirm for you that you have courage, strength and just enough hope to find a better life.

Change is tough as hell but you can do it.[/quote]

+1 
You can do this OP. You are young, and you are strong. There is lots of good advice in this thread. I wish I had recognized and understood my situation earlier. I stayed for 13 more years and now I have three kids. I adore them, and I am their sole legal and custodial guardian. My ex still tries to stir up trouble for me - mostly financial, so I have to be vigilant. He sees the kids, but my oldest (18) has cut off all contact with him.

I'm sorry your family isn't supportive, but it's pretty typical for a narcissist to try and turn people against their chosen victim. I hope they come around. But in the meantime, take care of yourself, and keep moving forward. Find sources of emotional support. Do not go back to him. Think of your son, you don't want him to learn this is what it means to be a man. And seek free legal help. That helped me get my head in the game.

There are many women who have been in your shoes. It's hard, it feels like you are the only one. But you are not alone. You can do this. [/quote]

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