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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Let's call her Jennifer. I knew Jennifer's family way back when we were elementary kids. I was friends with one of her sisters, but not her (slight age difference). Lost contact, she found me on Facebook about 10 years ago. Would respond to EVERYTHING I posted, and would constantly message me. Not the way your aunt responds to everything, but personally and way too much for someone I hadn't seen in nearly 20 years. I felt uncomfortable, unfriended, and blocked her.

A few months ago, I ran into her at a volunteering project. She looked at a list of 50 people, found my name on the list, and joined the group I was already in. Afterwards, we get to chatting in the usual "it's been so long! how's everyone!?" sort of way, and I stupidly gave her my number.

Now she keeps texting me, even though I'm not responding. Asking me "What's your Twitter? Are you in Instagram?" -- which to me is very strange to ask someone you don't know, and among the first things you ask. She keeps texting me. And after ignoring them, she clearly searched and found me on Instagram (I promptly blocked).

She clearly cannot take a hint, does not understand boundaries, and is weirding me out. How do you deal with people like this? We do not have a close social circle, but it's possible I may run into some extended circle people occasionally. Also I'm concerned she's going to start showing up to places I frequent. [/quote]

This would freak me out too.  At some point if you block her on everything, this should wear her down. But if she starts showing up in person and hounding you, you might need to be more direct.  Unfortunately when someone gets under my skin like this for long enough, by the time I let off steam, I can be pretty rude.  But sometimes that is what it takes.  "Look, I don't want to hurt your feelings but if I can be painfully honest: I just don't want to be friends.  Please stop hounding me, it is really starting to freak me out."   That should do it. Channel your inner bitch and let it rip if you have to. [/quote]

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