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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband and I are married and we both have ADHD.

Don't do it:

1. Your children will be at increased risk not only for ADHD, but for SEVERE ADHD. It's not pretty even with meds.

2. Your house will be in chaos in the morning and evening because those are the times when meds aren't there to help you.

3. That chaos and parenting challenge will place a heavy strain on your relationship.

I'm living it right now.[/quote]
Four couples.

ADD/ADHD  1 child isn't, one is ADHD and the other too young to know.

Non/ADHD  1 child with ADD and two aren't

ADD/Non   2 children with ADD and one isn't

Non/Non  1 child with ADHD, one not and two that are too young to determine

Why did the two without ADD/ADHD as a factor have an ADHD child? Genetics.

And your assertion of severe ADHD...what?

http://www.chadd.org/understanding-adhd/about-adhd.aspx[/quote]

I don't understand the point of this. Are these people you know or some kind of hypothetical?

OP, people can't just grow up and suddenly snap out of ADHD symptoms. If it were that easy, we wouldn't need to treat it with meds. A lot of kids do outgrow it, but there are still plenty of adults with it, it's a real medical condition, and it can affect people in varying ways. Hopefully if two people have ADHD and partner up, they have different strengths and weaknesses so they complement each other instead of exacerbate their issues. Hopefully they'd both be seeking treatment. It would be very exhausting to deal with my own issues, plus DH's, and then likely our children's too. Kids already make things hard, and kids with ADHD are a special kind of challenge. Add in things like anxiety and depression that often accompany ADHD, and it's sort of like a bomb waiting to go off.

The thing is, in my circle at least, a lot of parents I know are being diagnosed because their children are diagnosed and they then realize they also probably have it. So the couples don't always realize they have it when they marry, because they've figured out their coping mechanisms to get them into adulthood. But after kids, it's a whole new kind of stress, and what worked before no longer works, and things fall apart. It's not as cut and dry as simply deciding not to marry someone who has ADHD, because it might not be known until well into the marriage. [/quote]

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