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[quote=Anonymous]Brother getting divorced from wife of 10 years, she left him a year or so ago after they had a profoung disagreement over children. She moved back in with her parents in S. American.  The back story is that she moved in with him a few years after college, and never worked during their entire marriage, despite her getting training in one field and then failing the exam and decided not to retake it, then a couple years of  career counseling sessions, seeing a therapist, tutoring and finally getting her mba at a top school, which my brother partially  financed (her parents paid half) and traveling monthly to see her (She got into a b school where they lived, but she insisted on one across the country). After graduation, she  got one job offer in S. America, that was the only one my brother nixed because she had always said she wanted to stay in the US (he agreed to move anywhere in US or canada, but he was breadwinner and needed his job, he couldn't get one in s. america). ANd because she now had an MBA from a great school, they both figured she'd get other offers in the states.  But despite endless interviews, t no other job offers materialized except one, finally,  but after she went in for a shadow day, they cancelled the offer (she has a history of anxiety, depression, anorexia, bulimia and is a very poor communicator). Finally, she seemed to give up on getting a job and they decided to focus on starting a family.  while my brother was increasingly unhappy.  he never complained (as far as I know) and continually supported her in her efforts to get better/find herself/get a job and of course fully supported her, paid for exotic vacations a few times a year, etc.

he just got her lawyers papers--she is alleging that he was so "abusive" about jobs and specifically had prevented her from ever pursuing a career and she is now permanently emotionally disabled and is filing for LIFETIME medical and living expenses and emotional damages plus suing for the portion of B school that her parents funded. (She's 36, with an mba from wharton, he's a scientist making 150k a year). Its totally and completely nuts, and he is STUNNED. he thought she would be reasonable, they didn't ever really fight, she left him and basically has been out of contact.

I guess his lawyer is responding, but I am just angry and really sad for him--he is panicking and mostly feels so incredibly betrayed. Even though they split up, he thought things were sad but amicable. Their last meeting they hugged each other, they both cried, etc. there certainly was no abuse on his part, though she quite often berated him.

not even sure what I'm looking for her--I guess just to vent. But Im worried--what if the judge believes it? he will spend his entire life financially and emotionally beholden to this insane person? [/quote]

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