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[quote=Confusedchaos]I have been in a relationship with this man for 4 years, we were even engaged for 1 year. 
We have a son together. I am in my early 20's and he is in his early 30's. 
I have never been on a forum before so I am not sure if my therapist is right in recommending that I find support on a forum where people understand what I am going through.

To make a long story short, my now ex boyfriend (father of my 2 year old son) is claiming that he can't help but go to websites featuring prostitutes and trying to pay for sex. 
He has battled with webcam with girls in the past and hardcore porn and dating websites. He has cheated on me several times (and that is only when I have caught him) 
He will create email accounts and then register for these dating websites and these porn websites, webcam websites and cheat on me. He also goes to the strip club and has paid for sex with a prostitute. I found out over a week ago that this was still going on... and that he has been going on websites like www.eccie.com and www.backpage.com and finding girls who are cheap and texting them to hook up. He claims he only paid for sex one time but I don't believe him. He always lies to me when it comes to this. 
I have talked to my therapist, and him as well and it looks like he has a sex addiction. He changed his number and he promised to go to therapy but I don't know how to deal with this. 
He says I am not "nasty" enough for him... and tries to manipulate the situation like it is my fault that he cheats. But I know it is just his guilty conscience. I know he doesn't want to lose me but I am honestly so grossed out by this and it is messing with me emotionally making feel like I am not good enough and I feel I will never get over this and never be able to trust him again. 
I am hoping he goes to therapy because if he doesn't there is absolutely no chance of us ever getting back together. I just don't know if he is really addicted or if he is using this as an excuse to be forgiven? I feel like my whole future is over or changing. and We are living together but we are just friends right now. I feel lonely and confused. Because he is embarrassed by what he has done he doesn't want me telling anyone so I have no one to talk too. I Honestly feel like I am only 23 years old and should not have to deal with all of this. He has been emotionally abusive and made me feel insecure for so long now. I feel like he has sucked the life out of me and I feel numb. I just worry because we have a son. and I want so badly for us to eventually work out and him to get better and not cheat or lie anymore. But I feel like I have been waiting for 4 years for him to change.

Idk.. any advice would be wonderful.. I just feel so confused and lost at this point..[/quote]

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