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[quote=Anonymous]I just wanted to say like a few other PPs that I'm with you.  I have a 3.5 year old and an infant and (even before the baby to be totally honest) and right with you.

The posters who said we need to realize that the kids are kids, or that the food on the floor, small battles, etc. aren't really helpful.  My trigger was my son taking his shoes off in the car.  Silly small thing, but it really pissed me off.  So we'd start out wherever we were going with me angry before we even got out the car.

I tried counting to 10, taking deep breaths, etc. and nothing worked.  WHat finally did work is sitting down when we were outside of the situation and trying to figure out why it made me so upset.  Once I rationally took the time to think through it and identify why this was a trigger for me (b/c I always feel rushed/late and having to put on shoes ater we get there makes me feel even more rushed and anxious) it was much easier to relax the next time the situation arose

As my son is getting older I'm actualy finding it easier to control my anger.  He's able to tell when I'm losing my patience and I have to address it if I raise my voice as that's something he knows we're not supposed to do.  It's really humbling to have to tell a preschooler that you can't control yourself the way you expect them to be able to.

So I dont really have any helpful advice (other than trying to identify your triggers and figure out why they get to you), but wanted to be sure you know that you're not alone.  No amount of help (paid or otherwise!) matters when you're in a resturant, store, car, etc., and your child is pushing your buttons!!

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