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[quote=Anonymous]My 7th grade DD attends a small school - there are 11 girls in her grade, divided into 2 classes.  A couple of months before school ended last year, my DD began to be excluded by the other girls.  I sensed that there was something going on at the time, but for the most part DD always said that things were fine.

DD hoped that things would be different after the summer break, but the situation at school - now 8 days in - is worse than ever.  The girls in her grade completely ignore her.  She spends lunch and break time alone.  Her class has 5 girls, so when they do something with partners, she is always the odd one out.

She says that she has overheard kids from other grades talking and laughing about the fact that she has no friends.  I thought that maybe she could be exaggerating, but teachers have taken notice of the situation and reached out to try to help.

I am just heartbroken for her and at a loss about what to do.  I have an appointment with the guidance counselor on Thursday.  Would it be wrong to let DD stay home from school until I have been able to meet with the counselor?  Maybe I need to try to get in to see her tomorrow?

What else can I do?  I obviously talk with her every night, trying to reinforce self-confidence, but she is just destroyed and I don't blame her.  She is going to be starting a couple of new activities soon, so I am praying that she will get connected with some other kids, but that won't help her get through the school day.  Should I try to reach out to a couple of the other Moms?  We were new to the school last year and I got to know a couple of them a bit when the girls were all friends, but I can't really say that they are friends of mine.  I am not even sure what I would say.  I think that most of the girls are nice kids and it is my sense that it is one girl - or maybe two - that are controlling everybody else.  But would the Moms want to know?

Anyway, today I am mostly trying to figure out whether to make her go to school tomorrow.  She obviously does not want to and I don't blame her.  What is the right message - that she needs  - with our support - to figure out how to persevere?  Or that she shouldn't have to be in that situation until we figure out a solution?[/quote]

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