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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are uptight, but yes you can tell him to stop. I always used to gently tickle my son's butt and tell him I was "tickling his fancy" when he was a toddler to his great delight. Not everything needs to be sexualized. [/quote]

Ew.[/quote]

If you're making this innocent act into a big deal, then YOU are disgusting, my friend.

Not PP you were responding to, BTW.

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np.  I don't think the pp is making a big deal.  I never thought to tickle my kids bottom.  You don't find that a bit strange?

Op, I woulnd't like it either and I would tell the kid to yell STOP!  very loudly.  I would tell grandpa to stop if he was too little.[/quote]

[b]You'd drag a child into this--a very young child who may think it's a fun game, and not understand why he should yell STOP at someone he loves--because you're too much of a coward to directly speak to your FIL?

WOW.

I have seen a lot of hand-wringing doormats around here, but you take the cake.
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Obviously, OP, you should calmly and directly address this with FIL. The script you were given above about bathing suit area is a good one.[/quote]

Calm down.  I'm the pp you are calling out.  First, op didn't say how old the child was.  Obviously, if the child is under two than the parent should speak up first.  If the child is over three I think it is a good time to let them know that they have control over their bodies.  Sometimes kids may seem like they are enjoying something but, they don't know how to respond when they don't like it and it is being done by an authority figure or someone they love.  If over the age of three I  would talk to the child and ask them how they feel when grandpa does it.  I would tell the child if they didn't like it than they should feel free to tell grandpa to stop.

There was an article in the Washington post about a teacher that for years would have the girls sit in his lap and he would feel them.  It wasn't until one girl saw a video about inappropriate touch that she got upset and the teachers knew something was wrong.  [b]I'm not saying Grandpa is a doing this but, he is coming close to crossing the line.[/b]

I've bolded the last part so you don't go off on me "taking the cake"[/quote]

If you--and I know this is crazy--READ THE ORIGINAL POST, you would have seen that OP describes her child as a TODDLER. So no, the priority here is not to teach Little Billy a lesson and make him confront someone he loves, it is for OP to stand up for her child and tell Bill Sr. to stop the inappropriate behavior.
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