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[quote=Anonymous]For those who have pursued adoption, I'm wondering how open adoption has been for you.  We are considering adopting but one of my main concerns is open adoption and concerns about too frequent contact with the birth family, especially if the birth parents have mental health/addiction issues, or feeling like I'm sharing the child with their bio parents/family, and concern that being in frequent contact with the birth family may cause confusion for the adopted child.  I have a few friends who have adopted, and they are in frequent contact with the birth parents (FB friends with them, text weekly, phone calls, in person visits), and this frequent level of contact makes me slightly uncomfortable.  Additionally, another issue is that we have a biological child and I worry that open adoption might be stressful for our bio child--would we bring her along on these visits, too?  How would she regard our adopted child's bio family, and would there be confusion that her sibling has two families but she only has one?

My husband has two sisters who are adopted, and theirs was a closed adoption from the beginning.  They chose not to contact their birth families when they turned 18 and never have since.  In many ways I feel like this is an easier scenario.

We are very interested in adopting but I do have concerns.  [/quote]

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