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[quote=Anonymous]Inquiring minds like to know, but I disagree with PPs about needing more details about the nature of the crisis.   Yes, it makes a difference whether the trigger for the crisis was a hangnail or serious illness, a tiny personal slight or the death of someone close to this person.  But the main issue is that this crisis has revealed to OP how this person responds to crises.

This person responds by "shutting down" and shutting people out.  By not sharing this information close to the others in his or her life.  This person responded in a way that made OP concerned for his or her well-being.

This will happen again and again.  Even if there were totally legitimate stressors, his or her reaction has to be owned by that person.  If the coping mechanisms are not healthy, that is HUGE.

OP, I'm sure you feel sorry for this person and want to be helpful.  However, think very carefully whether you want this kind of situation in your life repeatedly.  Don't be sucked in.  You just had the great fortune of seeing this person in tough circumstances, which is a gift.  If you are fully ok with out it went, great  If not, disengage and walk away now.  Better that you know now vs in 5 years.[/quote]

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