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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well, I don't know the tone of how you spoke to your son but personally I would reflect and make sure I didn't say anything to make him feel like he was at fault for not speaking up. I had things happen to me as a child that I never told my parents about because I was sure I would get a "But why didn't you" lecture. [b]Some acknowledgement to your son that it can be hard to speak up might be helpful.[/b]

And, yes, end their relationship. But the question that remains is whether the other child is safe. I know what he did to your son was upsetting, but he learned it somewhere and he should not have. I am concerned if the dad's response ends with scolding him for "acting that way" an opportunity may be missed to help a child who has possibly been abused or is being abused. Do you feel comfortable following up with the parents and letting them know you are concerned about their son?[/quote]

I didn't even think about that, good point too.  I'll circle back with DS along with DH to have a follow-up talk, and acknowledge that it can be hard to speak up.  I focused more on what actually happened, whether it ever happened before and how it's inappropriate.  I also focused on how it's my job as a parent to make sure he is safe emotionally and physically, and he should always feel safe telling me everything and anything NO MATTER HOW BAD.  I told him I can't protect him if I don't  know everything - that I love and care for him and don't want anyone to take advantage or do things that are inappropriate.

As for the child/guest, I'll follow up.  I feel sorry for him and have several avenues of following up[/quote]

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