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[quote=Anonymous]My 9 year old DS hosted a friend for playdate today. I always thought the boy was troubled, older brother is a bully, isn't allowed in our house anymore after he was incredibly rude to his brother, and my son isn't allowed to play there.  I'm fine hosting him, although I have a gut feeling that their family dynamic isn't healthy. They recently had a death in the family so I know they are going through a crisis year. 
This is the first playdate of the summer since we have been on vacation and otherwise busy.  They were playing fine and I sliced apples of them. At one point, I swore I thought the guest made sexual gestures with the apples, but then I thought I was seeing things but decided to stay close by.  I brought my laptop to the dining room to do some work while they went to the basement to play and watch a movie. It's just a few steps away within ear shot.  I heard the guest making moaning sounds, and asked my son to turn around so I quietly walked over to see what was going on. The guest had mounted my son, in a sexual 69 position.  I immediately said playdate was over, I didn't accuse them of anything. I simply asked him to get his shoes because the playdate was over.  It's interesting that no one got upset asking why the playdate was over.  I calmly drove him home and asked the dad to step out of the house so I can talk to him. I told him that I ended the playdate abruptly b/c of the inappropriate behavior, and said I don't know where he learned that but I can't have him over anymore.  The dad looked embarrassed, and said I have no idea where he got that from either and we ended the conversation cordially.  When I returned home, I asked my son what happened, and he said the guest got on top of him and asked him to do stuff that he doesn't even understand what it is.  I asked him to tell me the words the boy used, and he said he doesn't know or understand the words and doesn't remember. I asked him why he didn't tell the guest to get off of him, and he said he didn't want to get the guest mad or upset.  We have had "bad touch" discussions before, so I repeated that he should never let anyone do anything he is not comfortable with, even his "friends"; that his friends feelings are not more important than his feelings, etc. etc. your body is your castle and you are the king.. geez
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