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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have a saying for our (similar) son.  "You don't have to be the Mayor of (insert your town), but you do always have to be polite."  You don't have to have a ton of friends, you don't even have to particularly like people for that matter, but you do have to use your manners and represent your family and reflect well on us when outside the home.  Grim, mad looks at people just isn't ok.  I do agree that as she gets older, and well before she enters the corporate work force, she will have the maturity to understand that being an introvert or shy person is completely acceptable, and learn how to present herself in a socially appropriate way.  Also agree with the above about offering rewards when she puts herself in socially uncomfortable situations and sticks it out (politely).[/quote]

This is the right message + a little empathy.  Acknowledge that some people are hard to tolerate but don't suggest it's a big deal.  "Yeah. . . I feel that way sometimes, so I either quietly daydream or put on may biggest fake smile and make the best of it."  You can introduce her to the concept of "fake it till you make it."  Pretend you're having a great time and pretty soon you actually are." (I also sort of find it fun to be the only one to know I'm faking it--harmless unless you're so fake that it's rude).[/quote]

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