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[quote=Anonymous]What does he know?  My 8yo DS knows EVERYTHING about it because he is very, very inquisitive and not satisfied with half-answers.  We had a 30-min conversations about the mechanics of erections at age 5.  His twin sister doesn't care but she still knows a good deal:
Babies grow in a special part of a lady's body called a uterus.
When the baby is ready to come out, women have a special opening called a vagina that stretches big enough for the baby to squeeze through and then closes, like stretching a rubber band.
In order for a baby to grow you need DNA.  That tells the uterus what kind of baby to grow.  
You have to have DNA from a man and from a woman (sorry trans folks, I am keeping it simple here).

Have you really never talked about ANY of this with him?  If so, you need to start now with general knowledge.  I liked "It's not the stork" for talking about it in age-appropriate terms. I read it myself and then used that language with them vs. reading together.

First an initial, "Boy you are getting older so there are some things you might be ready to learn about because as an adult your body will be able to help make a baby." And then a few follow-ups where you bring it up indirectly and give him space to ask questions.

Then a month later you say, you know Daddy and I are trying to make a baby but my uterus is not working.  We were pretty sad that I can't grow you a brother or sister in my body but we are going to try to get a baby a different way.  A really nice lady who has a strong healthy uterus is going to put some of my DNA and Daddy'a DNA into her uterus so that she can grow a baby for us.  If it works we will have a new baby in our family!

A month after that you explain that it did work and your baby is growing healthy and strong and you hope he or she will be big enough to come live with you very soon.[/quote]

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