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[quote=Anonymous]My parents were emotionally and psychologically abusive to me as a child and a teenager. They believed in spanking, too, and hit me a lot, but the real abuse was emotional/psychological.

Sometimes I think about confronting them. But I know it would do nothing. They'd just get all defensive and emit a huge cloud of rationalizations. They are narcissists and obsessed with themselves and their own problems, they haven't given a moments thought to me or the problems/pain they caused me.

If through some miracle they came to me, identified exactly what they did, explained why it was abusive, and expressed sorrow, that would be a huge victory... [i]for them[/i]. That would mean they were making huge progress as human beings. This has about one in a million chance of happening, but if it did, it wouldn't do anything for me, because I am in charge of my own progress and mental well-being, neither of which depends on them.

My advice is not to bother with a confrontation. Recognize their limitations, whatever they are. Say everything you need to say[i] to your therapist[/i], not them, and work it out that way.[/quote]

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