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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks PPs who've provided helpful info.

As an aside: I have this vision in my head of how the assessments will go: my husband will be told his disorganization and feeling overwhelmed is ADHD and he can be helped. The same guy will evaluate me and conclude "you're a working mom of several kids, it's normal to feel overwhelmed and disorganized with all you have going on. Carry on, and be sure to provide adequate support to your recently ADHD-diagnosed husband while you continue to try to keep all the balls in the air!"

Yes, I am feeling defeated. Sigh.[/quote]

It gets better, OP, whether you have ADHD or not. If you and/or DH have it, you treat it, and it makes the one with ADHD feel better and more capable. If only one of you needs meds, the other will benefit from a more organized spouse. If he has ADHD and you don't, it doesn't mean you continue on the path you're on and excuse him from being a grown up. It means he steps up, fixes his problems, and does better. That'll be helpful for you too. It also helps (at least me) to know why I'm the way I am, so dh can tell that even if I still make mistakes, I'm trying and not just being an idiot.

My doctor asked a lot about my childhood, teen and college years before prescribing anything. He was curious about if I always had it and what coping mechanisms I had tried already. They shouldn't be dismissive of you just because of your hectic life. Do feel free to bring up anxiety and depression concerns if you have them. I can't tell if the defeatedness is unusual or if it's your norm, but the feelings in your post might be worth discussing with your doctor as well as your ADHD concerns. They often go together. [/quote]

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