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My family has always treated him with respect and really likes him. My issues with my family aren't from abuse or mistreatment but rather from my childhood feeling neglected and basically raised by my paternal grandparents for a year. My parents marriage issues always weighed heavily on me as i knew how disfunctional they were but always tried to 'put on a good face' and pretended like nothing was ever wrong whenever company was around or we visited. I hated the fakeness and it gave me anxiety when I used to visit. 
The past 5 years (since they seperated) have been soo much better. DH even said a few years ago I was much more relaxed and was anxious preceding the visit. 
He states he enjoys my family and has always gotten along with everyone, he shares a lot of the same interests as my family and has never once complained about a visit or tried to limit family time. I think it may be because he thought 'what is only 1x per year' but now that I would like to see them a bit more he is pushing the breaks. 
My issue is that he acts like nothing can change ever. He likes to throw back what i said 9 years ago about visiting and still tries to act like that applies today when it clearly does not. He has been there the entire time as my family life has gotten more stable and has seen how much happier everyone is. I really don't get it and he can only articualte it by saying he thinks visiting 1x per year is enough.

We see his family about every other month and always stop there for a day or night on the way to my parents to break up the trip a bit. 
I do plan to take the kids on my own but just feel like he is being really unfair trying to say I shouldn't do that a couple times a year. It is really making me look at him differently and feel like he is taking away a huge part of my and our children's family. 
Also, to compound it, my grandma (who raised me for a bit as a child) is aging and not able to travel so the only way for her to see me or the kids is if we visit and 1x per year is not much when that leaves her only with a few hours because we are so busy seeing everyone else. [/quote]

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