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[quote=Anonymous]My DH and I have been together for 9 years and married for 7. We live in the city where we met which is about 8 hours away from my parents and siblings. When we met, I had pulled away from my family a bit for my own emotional health. My parents marriage (if you could call it that) was not great and my siblings are all quite a bit younger than I am (the youngest is 18 years younger and was a 'bandaid baby). 
I never thought I would want to live closer to them as i really hated visiting them back then. 
Well fast forward 9 years, I now have 2 kids, my siblings are all in their 20's now so we have things in common like kids, husbands etc. and my parents are divorced (SOOOOOO much nicer and NO conflict/guilt etc). 
I have been wanting to visit more frequently and have even suggested we move a bit closer. DH does NOT want to move at all so I have been pushing for more visits. He HATES the drive and keeps throwing back that I said I didn't like to visit them. I have explained that cirucumstances have changed and things are SOOOO much nicer now (he agrees it is so much nicer too) but he keeps digging in his heals. I have offered to just take the kids and them and I will go but he says it is too far to drag the kids more than 1x per year.

WTF?

I feel trapped because, yes, I DID say I hated visiting but SOO much has changed (I never thought my parents would get divorced as they are too stubborn to change or admit anything) but they did! Any everyone is so much happier. I love my 4 sisters and want to have a stronger relationship with them but seeing them 1x per year won't do that. They all do come visit 1x per year too so that helps. 
It doesn't help that my entire immediate family and extended family all live withing 2 hours of eachother and I am the odd man out now.

Anyway, what do you guys think. Am I being unreasonable to want to see my family more than 1x per year. I was thinking and offered 2-3 times per year for a few days (long week, or one long session like7-9 days). DH wants 3-4 days max one time per year.

i want my kids to know my parents (DH live an hour away) as my parents have always been GREAT grandparents and love them so much and the kids love spending time with them.

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