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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]At what age did she quit?

My DD is almost 10 and really loves dance.  She started with the competitions two years ago and seems like she won't want to stop anytime soon.  Right now she dances three nights a week and her studio only participates in two competitions per year, so it isn't all consuming like Dance Moms type of competitions.  My DH was commenting tonight that he hopes she quits in another year or so so she can do other activities.  My thought is, if she loves dance, let her put her time and energy into dance.  One of my friends made the comment that "most of them quit by 7th or 8th grade because they feel like they miss out on time with their friends".  I am just curious if this was true for your DD.  My DD has made a lot of good friends through dance so she is technically spending time with friends while she is there.  Anyway, just curious how it went for your girls.[/quote]

Reading between the lines it sounds to me like you may be more invested in this than she is and I would just caution you there.

Does DH dislike it because $$$?[/quote]

Actually it sounds like mom is neutral, daughter is commited and enjoys it, and dad wants her to quit something she loves because he woukd rather she does sports.

OP as long as you can afford it, let her keep doing it as long as she wants to ans is enjoying it.

[b]There is nothing that sports will offer her that she cannot get through dance.[/b]  Plus dance has the additional benefit of allowing her to access the creative side of her mind in a way sports do not.  There is no logical reason coming from your husbands side that justifies having her quit dance.[/quote]

I disagree with this statement.  The problem with dance and adolescent girls is that dance is very focused on appearance/aesthetic.  Yes, strength and coordination are required to execute the moves, but it also has to be visually appealing.  That aspect can be harmful for girls of a certain age if it isn't balanced with other things because it does create a strong fixation on body and appearance.

Sports, however, is focused solely on functionality.  So you get all of the benefits of the physicality that you get through dance (the discipline, the strength, the coordination), but without the fixation on appearance/aesthetic.

I also thing that dance schools are few and far between that really allow the girls creative expression.  The dance teachers can be rather heavy handed in instilling their own aesthetic as opposed to really allowing for originality from the students.

Just my opinion.[/quote]

Sports does not involve artistry and creativity which is an enormous component and benefit of dance.  Dance, in particular ballet and tap also involve patterns, memory and intellect,which most sports do not.

The eating disorder thing is in sports as well, not just dance or "girly" spprts.[/quote]

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