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[quote=Anonymous]I think part of it is getting older and not caring or being apologetic about who I am. I came out 25y ago and the first 5-10 years were rough. I felt exposed, judged, faulty, and hurt. My parents weren't great, my friends thought it was a funny joke, and I wasn't out to my co-workers and felt like I was always lying by omission. There was a LOT of internalized homophobia on my part.  But gradually (and after therapy) I realized I wasn't faulty and by and large my friends weren't judging me or thought of me as a joke - they just didn't know what to do and defaulted to humor and sarcasm.

And of course your dating pool isn't as big as if you were straight (there are far fewer lesbians than heterosexual men.) But that doesn't mean you can't find your person out there. You have to put yourself out there where other lesbians will be - social events/volunteer events/online. You are young. I didn't meet my soulmate until I was in my early 30s and now we have 2 kids, a house in the burbs, and great friends (99% of whom are straight.) Being a lesbian is one thing about me - but certainly not the defining characteristic.

Good luck![/quote]

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