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I'm sorry you feel this way, OP.

This is why I hate the current coverage of transgenderism. The media makes it seems like so many people are coming out and modifying themselves, that everyone is going to welcome them with open arms, etc. Perhaps as it did with homosexuals in the past - I wasn't living in this country at that time so I don't know.

I never imagined that coming out would lead to an easy life. Easier than the previous life? Perhaps if the person in question has been suffering greatly from hiding his or her identity, but not necessarily.

I'm going to say something that's perhaps not true and terribly ignorant, so I apologize in advance: I get the feeling that with increasing media coverage, teens who are feeling isolated may be encouraged to "come out" as X, Y, Z, without actually having suffered from a gender identity crisis in the past (an identity crisis, certainly, but not particularly gender-specific), and that this trend catches them at an age when they are taken seriously but are not self-knowledgeable enough to really weigh the consequences of their decision.

There is so much fluidity in identifying oneself. I wish we could do away with labels and coming out and all the big hoopla and just live our lives.
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Thank you, PP. I absolutely can't and don't want to speak for everyone, but I think that the media overstates a lot of the coming out "success stories," whether that happens to be gay/bi/trans. I especially feel this way when comparing these media stories with actual statistics on LGBT youth bulling rates and health outcomes (read: pretty terrible). I also see myself in your statement about kids coming out at an age where they're taken seriously but can't always weigh the consequences of their decision. When I came out, being gay was somewhat accepted (it was only the 2000s lol) but the prevailing narrative at the time from a lot of media sources was that people who love you will come around, realize you're the same person you always were, and if not, you don't need them. I had no reason to expect that things would go as badly or have as longstanding an effect on my life as they actually did. 
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