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[quote=Anonymous]My dh is like your dw. I wouldn't care much about his need for weight loss, except he brings it up daily. And doesn't do anything effective to work on it. 
I'll just share his reasons:
1) he doesn't have time. I've offered him free time (young kids at home and he works long hours. out of devotion to me he doesn't just take off and leave w/o coordinating). Again, I tell him it's ok, but he either doesn't have it / won't take it.
2) his sweet tooth/over eating is either emotional or habitual or both.
3) he was doing great with a no-soda rule, self-imposed obviously, but said it was too hard. I thought he was handling it fine but I guess it was harder than it looked. Drinking sugary stuff is still rare-ish. But that would be an easy win.
4) I suggest effective exercise but those aren't the things he wants to do. I get it, it SHOULD be fun. That goes back into the time problem. He enjoys more like team sports. He could join a league for soccer etc. With little time, it's hard to do, and he won't just go on a quick jog or do interval training. He's missing the quick exercise wins over hoping to do what he really wants.

So, does your wife have the time/freedom? Does she have underlying emotional reasons for eating? (I know i self-sooth negative emotions with a sweet.) Do you encourage her to get out / stay home and do what's fun for her?

I don't say anything to him because the motivation needs to be his. But I do encourage him positively when he brings it up. [/quote]

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