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[quote=Anonymous]I'm feeling torn whether to continue to pursue a new job or to stay for another year and go for a baby (I want a baby and the job but I can't have both right now).

I've been in my job 4 years and I'm pretty comfortable in it!  I qualify for FMLA, I know exactly what they would do if I pump, I know that while my supervisor grumbles--I can take my leave.  There's never any real question whether my leave will be approved.  My supervisor is flexible with me using flex-time to change my schedule as needed and is flexible with my daily schedule.  It is no issue if I have a bad morning with my toddler and am late --I just stay late to make up the time.  I am able to stay home with my toddler when he is sick as I get plenty of sick leave.  I know that I can pretty much count on a 2-3% raise annually.  It is a stressful job but I am also given a lot of freedom in my work and I do it well.  I've made a good name for myself and have built up contacts.

I have gone through a few different interviews for various local positions that didn't pan out the past few months.  I know if that if I am to advance in my career then I need to leave my agency.  I am interviewing tomorrow for a job in a much bigger agency that could mean a 10% raise and I should get my same accrual rate for leave as it is with the local/state government.  The supervisor seems nice and called me the day after the first interview to tell me how impressed she was with me and how they filled the 1st position internally but strongly encouraged me to apply for a similar position (more of a lateral move vs vertical).  I don't know what their policies on pumping are, I don't know how they are on actually TAKING leave except that I can't take any for the 1st 6 months.  There is a shorter commute too by about 10-20 min depending on the day.

I am stressing about this because it is a good job opportunity but I've been planning to start TTC THIS MONTH for about a year.  For many reasons, we want to at least TRY for a spring-summer baby but I also really want to be covered by FMLA and I plan to take the full 12 weeks. I have anxiety and it is very important to me to take the full 12 weeks.  It means aiming for roughly a 3 year age gap vs a 4 year age gap if I wait an additional year....I would prefer the just under 3 year age gap if we can which would mean trying....basically right now/next week. I have pretty intense baby fever right now and have had it for 6+ months.  I'm ready for a 2nd baby and I really want my child to have a sibling.

I know I'm stressing more than I should and this is a loaded question but what would you do in my situation?  BTW, I am only 29 and got pregnant with my 1st on my 1st try but my Mom had huge issues getting pregnant with me and my sisters and had to use fertility treatments both times and I really would like to avoid a huge age gap like I had between me and my sister.

Is there anyway I can "have it all" with the new job, baby, and 12 weeks maternity leave?? :/[/quote]

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