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[quote=Anonymous]I have posted in the past about DH's alcoholic BIL and guess I am back to vent. BIL has fallen off the wagon once again - this is the 5th time in 2 years he has needed serious medical intervention/hospitalization and DH is expected once again to step up and handle it all as his parents are worthless and just try to micro-manage from afar. The same thing happens every time - BIL goes MIA for a week or two, parents get worried about him and start asking DH to investigate what is going on and if BIL is drinking again. Turns out he is and is a total wreck, DH has to try to convince his brother to go to the hospital to sober up since he can't deal with the withdrawal on his own (it nearly killed him last time). BIL ends up in the hospital, and then DH goes to be with him day in and day out so he isn't alone, while ungrateful BIL complains about how horrible the hospital is and how he doesn't have a problem. DH has missed tons of work, including a couple very important meetings. He has missed numerous events for our kids dealing with this BS too.

My concern here is for my DH - it's giving him major anxiety and stress to deal with this on his own. It's heartbreaking and nearly impossible for him to manage BIL when he is like this, and so unbelievably unfair of his parents not to help other than to bark orders at DH. They need to get to DC to deal with this - they don't have anything preventing them other than fear. DH is seriously terrified that BIL is going to die without help so he can't not help him... which in turn means he is constantly enabling him.

What can I do here to help DH? This is all such a hot mess and I am trying to be as supportive as possible, but I am furious this all falls on him every single time.[/quote]

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