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[quote=Anonymous]For now, adjust your expectations of what a sister relationship SHOULD be.

Focus on what you most want: the ability to be with her so that your kids and her kids can spend time together.

Can you do that now? Yes? Good. Then, for now, treat her as an acquaintance/play date mom you don't know very well. Be polite, be courteous, certainly be civil, but don't expect to be best friends.

Once you've got the surface-level relationship down, see what you can add on. Birthday phone call? Great! (And no, you can't expect for it to be reciprocated.) Get together to see a movie, an easy activity because you don't have to talk much? Great! (And no, you can't expect her to invite you to a movie in return.)

Keep adding on until you hit a "level" that opens to a bad encounter. At that point, back off, and go one step more surface.

Whatever it is, it is. Whatever it will be, it will be. Get as close as you can without getting hurt/setting yourself up for failure, then accept. Maybe it will someday change, and you can get closer. Maybe not. If not, focus on your friendships with your close girlfriends.[/quote]

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