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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks for the advice, both not to panic and the more concrete ideas for re-connecting with DH.

I am the OP, and yes also the PP who admitted that I've gained weight post-baby and feel zero desire, for anyone, not just DH.

I used to be very confident, zero jealousy (to the point of having fun threesomes with DH.)   Anyway suffice to say, DH and I had a rocking sex life pre-baby.  Now I feel intensely uncomfortable about the idea that he may be attracted to or into other women but I don't want to have sex with him either.   I know this is not fair and can't continue indefinitely.

I do feel like I've lost my mojo. I feel the pressure of working fulltime and wanting to be home asap after work to be with my child for an hour or so at night.

I think first step will be to start taking an hour for myself in the evening a few times a week to work out, or even take a walk with a friend,  and try some therapy on my own.

Thanks DCUM

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Self care is important. Men are not complicated. Have sex with him. Everyone goes though periods of being attracted to ther people. Key is not to act on those and not let it hinder your actual relationship. He just wants to get laid by his wife who he had an awesome sex life with. Toddlers are hard. Adult responsibilities are a drain. Your marriage can be a place of positive amongst everything. Try to reconnect. Take a walk together, hike, new restaurant dor dessert after baby goes to bed with a babysitter. Shower together. Etc. you are the same people as before just with more stuff piled on you to worry about. Good luck and hugs. [/quote]

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