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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH is a great father and a good person.  I am probably the problem.

Yes, I got fat and cut my hair and we never have sex.[/quote]

Is this you OP?

If it is it sounds like your depressed. Depression can make the most normal of relationships seem challenging, it makes you feel discoonected from everyone. Divorcing your husband won't make your depression go away.

First step deal with your depression, talk to your PCP, medication, counseling etc.

Make time for each other.  Have a ritual, maybe get  up early and have a cup of coffee together,  or share a glass of wine before bed.  Go on "dates"  meet each other for lunch once a week.  If you are able get a babysitter one evening a month and go dancing or something you like to do ( I would adbise against a movie).

Start having sex again. You'll probably have to schedule it, but sex is a huge connector for couples, so once a week Sunday  at 10  is sex time.   then incresase it two twice a week.

Communicate with each other, I don't just mean about the kid or what needs to be done around the house,  mention something thoughtful to him, I promise you  he'll soon return the favor. Reach out and touch him, his, back, hand etc. when you're passing by.

If they're are deep issues between consider speaking with a counselor to help mediate and resolve them.

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